That’s Not How This Works (Charlie Puth)

This song is about the frustration of dealing with an ex who sends mixed signals, oscillating between pushing the singer away and then seeking comfort from him.

The singer is establishing boundaries and refusing to play along with the ex’s confusing behavior.

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The lyrics describe a relationship characterized by inconsistency.

The opening lines reveal the singer’s initial belief that the relationship was over (“Thought the day you disappeared that it was over”), only to have the ex re-emerge and claim she needs him.

The chorus, “You can’t say you hate me, then call me when you’re hurt / Baby, you know that’s not how this works,” emphasizes the singer’s refusal to accept this push-and-pull dynamic.

Specific instances, like the ex asking for her “sweaters” back, are highlighted as manipulative excuses to maintain contact.

The bridge, “Don’t say that you’re in love with me (’cause I know it’s not what you mean),” further reinforces the singer’s awareness of the ex’s insincerity and his determination to not be manipulated.

The repetition of “That’s not how this works” underscores the establishment of boundaries and the rejection of the ex’s confusing behavior.